Thank you to everyone who responded either here or via e-mail. We did decide to tell her teacher because we’ve heard from LMG before that one of these boys isn’t very nice, and she and he are assigned seats at the same table. We thought the teacher might know something we don’t that would make this information relevant. Also, since the boys sit in close proximity to LMG, we didn’t want her to be harassed if this continued. We were clear to explain that we did not seek punishment for the boys, we just wanted to make her *aware* in case this continued.
She quickly responded that she would be “checking into it” and e-mailed us later that afternoon. She had a talk with LMG and the two boys involved. All three told the same story as LMG had told us. The teacher said she doesn’t think this has happened before and that LMG is pretty good at sticking up for herself. She also said she didn’t think it would happen again, based on the boys’ “tearful responses” to her questioning.
What was even better was that the teacher said that LMG and A seemed to be getting along great, and that as far as she knew, there hadn’t been any problems between them. She said LMG has been doing very well with paying attention and following directions. In her words, she and A “seemed to have found a happy medium” in their friendship. That was good to hear.
I know it sounds bad, but it made me feel better that the boys were contrite about what they had done. LMG told me this afternoon that she and her teacher and the boys had a talk about “the bad note” and that the boys said they were sorry. I asked her if that made her feel better and she said yes. Then, thankfully, they had the field trip today to the police and fire departments, so there was plenty of fun and excitement to distract everybody from yesterday’s trouble.
I’m relieved that this one ordeal seems to be settling, but I know it’s the first of many to come.
Thank you to all of you who cared enough to read and respond. The one common thread that we all share is that we’ve all been through this before, and we all want to protect our kids from that kind of pain. These are valuable learning experiences… for our kids and for us. I’m so blessed to have many wonderful, caring friends in my life. Thanks again, everybody.